what a time: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time

confidence vs competence: a pep talk on putting yourself out there

Episode Summary

I've seen a confidence theme lately and it always starts with the same two words: I can't. I can't apply to that college. I can't ask that person to hang out. I can’t apply to that job. I can’t try out for that group. Telling ourselves we can’t do something feels protective. No need to take a chance or get rejected, but it's really just holding you back. In today's pep talk, I share a confidence reframe because 99.9999% of the time what’s being described as a competence issue (I’m not good enough. I can’t do it.) is really just a confidence issue.

Episode Notes

I've seen a confidence theme lately and it always starts with the same two words: I can't.

I can't apply to that college.

I can't ask that person to hang out.

I can’t apply to that job.

I can’t try out for that group.

Telling ourselves we can’t do something feels protective. No need to take a chance or get rejected, but it's really just holding you back. In today's pep talk, I share a confidence reframe because 99.9999% of the time what’s being described as a competence issue (I’m not good enough. I can’t do it.) is really just a confidence issue.

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